Taking time away from the best people in the world: your family
We all know being a parent can be difficult and motherhood especially can be a very difficult “job” to hold. The hours are long, the pay is nothing, and sometimes the client (your child) can be very demanding. According to USA Today, “working moms feel stressed, rushed and short on time with both their kids and their friends.” It’s not only working moms who have a problem though; 42% of stay-at-home moms say they are also struggling as well. What can this struggle turn into? Quite simply depression. USA Today goes on to say that 1 in 9 women experience postpartum depression and 1 in 10 children “experience a depressed mother in any given year.” While this may seem minor, “only” 1 in 10 children doesn’t seem like many but if you took the number of children in the world and figured out what 10% of them would be, this becomes an alarming statistic. This is why as a mother (or a person) taking care of your mental health is so important
The Stigma Behind “Momcations”
One of the big issues today with moms taking “momcations” or time just to themselves is the way society treats them. If you post pictures of your “momcation” on social media, what are the chances someone is going to comment or silently comment about you and your abilities as a mother? As moms, we are expected to be superhuman. We are expected to never need or more so want a break from our little love bugs.
We are expected to keep our “stuff” together at all times and push on through whatever it is that may be troubling us. I’m here to tell you that all of that is a big fat lie. Moms need to take care of themselves too because if you are not taken care of, then you cannot take care of anyone else, including your kids. So what can you do GUILT FREE to make sure you are giving your mind a rest?
Recharge Your Batteries
You can get with your mom friends and take a momcation. This is a vacation just for moms. No husbands. No significant others. No kids. No pets. Just moms. This. Is. So. Important. A getaway is a great way to recharge your batteries. Take the time for a weekend getaway with your friends to a winery that’s a few hours away or takes a week and goes down to the Bahamas and sits on the beach drinking mimosas and soaking in the sun. Whatever your budget can manage is exactly what you should do. Getting away does a few things for you. One, it gives you space to miss your kids which makes you more eager to see them. Two, it gives you time to relax and really recharge your batteries with nothing pressing on your time.
If you can’t get away due to time or budget constraints, take the time to go out with friends for lunch or coffee and a little shopping. This is again time away for you to just relax and have some time with adults who know what it’s like to need a break. On this day, leave your phone on vibrate, check it for emergency purposes only and really enjoy a day just to be with your girlfriends.
Another way you can recharge your batteries might be doing something completely alone. No one around you just you and a box of thin mints a stack of movies or books and a hotel room. There is no shame in that game either. It’s important to take time just to yourself. This time can help you catch up on much-needed sleep. It can also help you center yourself. You are more than just a mom. You are a strong woman with thoughts and ideas and sometimes we get pushed to the background because we’re “moms” and people stereotype that role quite frequently. Taking time for yourself whether that’s at a hotel, at a coffee shop, or a weekend at the beach is just as important as spending time with your friends.
The Most Rewarding and Hardest Job
All of the above are great ways to get away and rediscover who you are as a person, not just a mom. Beyond getting away from your job, make sure you recognize if you are not ok. Be aware of your body, your emotions, and your needs. According to USA Today, you need to remember if you’re not fine or ok, you don’t have to pretend to be. Always know and remember you have people on your side to help you out, especially your other mom friends. Finally, keep everything in perspective. Know that a crayon mark on the wall doesn’t mean you have to tear the house down or that you are a terrible mother. It means your kid is going to be the next Picasso, maybe.